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For Couples
Using Havening to Enhance Intimacy in Relationships.
In this psychoeducation video, Dr. Kate Truitt walks us through how to use havening to enhance intimacy in relationships. She begins by explaining that self-havening consists of three soothing touches that engage receptors in our skin which have direct links up to our brain. When the receptors are engaged they create a calm, soothing environment in our system.
She then discusses the importance of having a space where our mind and body feel safe in a relationship. In order to bring havening into the relationship, both partners should learn the havening touches and cultivate a distraction inventory. Several related videos are recommended and linked in the YouTube description of the video.
Two Steps to Being a Better Listener & Communicating More Effectively
Dr. Kate Truitt explains that reflective listening is a really powerful tool for letting other people know that we care, see, and hear them. By getting the “me” out of the way, we can connect with them.
She walks us through how to effectively enact reflective listening. First, we need to make sure that we are in a headspace where we can be present and truly hear what they’re saying. Once the other person communicates their point, we should take a moment and paraphrase what we think they’ve heard back to them. Then we ask them if we’re correct, and if we aren’t then we should invite them to share more and provide clarity for us.
When we can correctly answer what is going on with this person right now, and have that information verified by the person we’re speaking with, then we know that we are effectively listening and creating space for deeper connection.
The Push Pause Exercise for Creating Space in Difficult Moments
In this psychoeducation video, Dr. Kate Truitt explains that one of the best tools for creating space is called the Push Pause Exercise. It creates space in a conversation for our mind and body to reset, and it’s critical to teach the people we interact with on a daily basis the tool as well. If everybody agrees that this is a useful communication strategy, then it can help everybody involved.
As soon as anyone pushes pause, then everyone is invited to stop and check in. Dr. Kate suggests using the break to utilize havening tools or a brain exercise. One of the key parts of push pause is that there is no request nor requirement to share what was coming up in the moment before pause was pushed. She explains that this is twofold: perhaps the person doesn’t know or they don’t want to share.
The push pause button can take as little as 20 to 30 seconds. It’s a space creator in a conversation for everybody to reset and get back into healthy connection as opposed to having their brains hijacked.
She invites us to share this tool with the people around us, especially those that you tend to have difficult conversations with.
Why You Get Triggered When Having Hard Conversations & What to Do About It
Dr. Kate explains why we get triggered when we experience hard conversations. It usually only takes one stimulus to cause our body to go into that electric state of being triggered. We have the ability to find the stimulus in hindsight. Sometimes the stimulus can be who we’re interacting with, and other times it can be a stimulus from the past leaking into the present.
Then, Dr. Kate guides us through an in vivo exercise. She asks us to find an experience where we felt immediately frozen, defensive, or annoyed. Rewind that experience to find the specific moment we felt our body was hijacked. What was the cue that we were in a state of threat?
There are two main reasons that cause Amy to overreact, Dr. Kate explains. The first is if the past is intruding into the present. The second is if our energy is depleted, causing our tolerance to dwindle. Dr. Kate prompts us to find what is the straw that broke the amygdala’s back?
By practicing CPR for the Amygdala, breath work, self-care, yoga, and thought challenges, we can ensure that our energy and tolerance are well taken care of. Dr. Kate also notes that the more we learn about how and why we respond in a given moment, the more power we have to regulate our mind and body.
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“Problems can be experienced as… a chance for renewal rather than stress.”
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Each person in a relationship has the capacity to attune to and support the other’s growth. Through creating the space to examine and connect, couples are sponsored to engage in an intimate exploration of being in relationship with each other. At Dr. Kate Truitt & Associates, we believe that every individual in a relationship possesses the power to nurture and support their partner’s growth. Our unique couples therapy sessions offer a nurturing space for you and your significant other to embark on a journey of deep connection and mutual understanding. Join us and unlock the potential of your relationship.
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